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Operation Protect Your Mental Health at All Cost

Hey guys,

My last post was dark. I’ve always said writing is my outlet. My coping mechanism. I don’t regret getting that deep on my blog. I do regret sharing my blog with family and friends. Jokes on me for thinking the internet was a safe space. Sharing my thoughts for everyone to read just makes things 10x harder.

Being told things like “well you wrote it for everyone to read” or “when you share things people are allowed to make comments.” Why should I feel guilty for openly sharing my personal feelings on my first hand experiences? Probably because we live in a society that glorifies people struggling in silence. Black women especially are always supposed to be “strong”. We aren’t allowed to share how we really feel. Soon as I open my mouth and express something it comes across as “harsh”, “disrespectful”, “negative”, “pushy”, “inconsiderate” or “selfish”. Oh I forgot I’m just supposed to sit here and look cute. God forbid I have feelings and express a emotion outside of happiness. I have to keep everyone else’s feelings in mind and stroke everyone else’s ego. Fuck that. I’m tired of that shit.

When I share how I am handling things and how I’m dealing with my hardships, I am gaslighted because “we love you and don’t want you to feel alone”. But when you actually need help, 🦗 🦗🦗 *crickets*.

I finally got a new car to replace the one that was stolen. I love my new car but it also terrifies me. It’s a fucked up feeling knowing anyone can take something from you whenever they feel like it and it’s not much you can do. It’s a fucked up feeling when it feels like shit just keeps happening to you. When you fear getting attached to something because who knows what may happen next. 2020 has affected me not only financially but emotionally. Contrary to popular belief, my life isn’t a fucking fairytale. I hurt ALOT.

I’m also a dog mom now. We got a new puppy about a month ago. An emotional support pet felt like a good idea. I’m super excited about my puppy but with the extra responsibly and bills it’s hard not to worry. It is just something else I have to mentally work through. Of course my family didn’t think it was a good idea to get a puppy at a time like this. I now totally understand why people move away and never really talk to their family.

This pandemic has changed my life. Career wise everything has been put on hold, I am temporarily working at a market. Events have cease, so I won’t be planning anything anytime soon.  Last month after my car was stolen I didn’t have a car for over a month. I’ve had to depend on others for transportation to and from work. Trying to process all these changes while also having people expect you to not show it, can be crippling.

I’m doing my best to take care of me but I feel like I am massively failing. This is a new level of self care and mental health I wasn’t prepared for. If only my problems didn’t stem from money then I could at least afford a therapist.

Love you guys. I understand most of us are doing our beat to paint smiles on. It is difficult. We are all just trying to figure it out. Health wise, financially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically the whole nation is in chaos right now. That is just a fact. So if you are choosing to actively avoid the news and live in denial, if you are choosing to pretend like the world isn’t hurting right now because it hasn’t directly affected you, if you are gaslighting people who are going through shit right now, GO TO HELL! You are apart of the problem.

As an essential worker, I am the one wearing a mask 40 hours a week. As an grocery store worker, I am the one dealing with the public everyday! As an black woman, I am the one mentally arming myself to deal with another hashtag. As well as dealing with “white allies” who get warm fuzzies when they march for a week or post on social media. All while trying not to drown in the expensive ass Bay Area.

Again, I apologize for the inconsistency this year. I’ve just been feeling extremely uninspired.

Don’t be surprised if one day I announce that I’ve picked up and moved to another country.

Thank you for reading y’all. I’ll be back when life sucks a little less.

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As a child I wanted to help the world. I wanted to be a neonatal pediatrician. I wanted to travel the world to help women and children during labor and delivery. I watched a tv special on Oprah about women and children in other countries dying at alarming rates during child birth because of lack of resources and I was inspired to somehow save the world one baby at a time. Since then, my vision has slightly changed. My profession isn’t in medicine but I still want to improve women’s health. My focus is still the same, I still have a dream of changing the world. I have now taken a natural holistic approach to tackling women’s health. Beauty and fashion has been a hobby turned obsession of mine. From reading magazines to wardrobe styling to modeling to orchestrating runway shows I dedicated my whole life to the beauty and fashion industry. As time passed, I began to search for the deeper meaning behind the intricate fabrics, fancy shoes, hair and makeup. I have found that health, beauty and fashion are more connected than I thought. My outlet is writing. Through my writing I hope to spark minds and impact individuals to dig deeper.

12 comments on “Operation Protect Your Mental Health at All Cost

  1. Nice post Lish❣️ I agree and I support whatever decision you make. Protect your mental health. I love you and want what ever is best for you.

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  2. Sending you so much love girl. I relate to this ENTIRE experience so, so much. Especially the family part. Let’s move to Canada haha.

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  3. Markieda Hollier

    Keep Pushing ! Stay motivated and as humble as you can ❣️ Keep up the amazing work !

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  4. I truly love how transparent and vulnerable you allow yourself to be in your words. You are a super talented writer! It may sound so cliche but God will get you through this. Pain is temporary, just keep creating that mental picture of who and what you want to be and you will have it . God never puts more on us than we can bare. Hopefully that’s not coming off as preachy! I just know God has always brought me through and I know he’s doing the same for you. I’m currently unemployed due to COVID but my sister is a writer and could potentially be a great resource for you if you ever need someone to bounce ideas off of/ seek career advice from, If you’re interested. Sending you love and light. (Also there’s this book called the ‘game of life and how to play it’ and it changed my life) it’s on Amazon! Give it a look.

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    • Talisha Lowe

      Thank you so much for this comment Tanecia! I needed this release and your support means everything! I will definitely look up the book now and privately message you to connect with your sister 💓

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  5. Great post, you got this. I know it sounds simple, and it is the least simplest thing to do is to have it. Like you Said protect your mental at all cost. Keep pushing through the encounters, in which are aiming to bring you out side of who Talisha is. Your doing amazing even if you don’t see it. Your mind aka metal is your wealth. Keep watering your mind like you water your plants so that you can continue to flourish and bring us the realness that you bring to us consistently. Whether we show up to read or not. Love you girl 💯

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    • Talisha Lowe

      “Whether we show up to read or not” Wow. Thank you friend! I needed that

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  6. Love you, sis. Black women are expected to suffer in silence and family is 100% the reason I don’t promote my own writing more. I love you and I’m with you. Thank you for your honesty and trusting us with it.

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