Self Care through Family

Happy Wednesday,

I hope you all are enjoying your hot girl/ hot boy summer. My summer has been a roller coaster. Being an adult is getting more and more complicated. I’ve been dealing with health, housing, career, and still grieving the lost of my grandma.

I struggle with blogging and how much I should share online. I’ve thought about my content and if it has stood in between potential job opportunities. We live in a world where being yourself is great until it isn’t. We are constantly being taught and told to conform to other people’s idea of what we should be. How to be a perfect employee 101, how to start a business 101, how to be a creative 101, how to be the perfect partner 101, how to be the perfect friend or family member 101. It’s so damn exhausting.tenor.gif

Everyone doesn’t appreciate authenticity. Most people are only intimidated by someone being themselves. Being who I am unapologetically is the only way I know how to be. There are so many examples of men and women who were killed for speaking their truths. Being compliant and going along with the status quo isn’t even in my DNA. In the words of the great philosopher Lil’ Wayne “I can only be me”.

So no matter how many curve balls life throws at me, I’m going to keep learning and growing from my experiences. I’m going to keep loving life and smiling no matter what. I’m going to keep using every opportunity to enjoy and take care of myself. The enemy is trying really hard to break me. I will never let anyone or anything no matter the situation get the best of me. The marathon continues always. It’s a rough journey but I got this.

We got this!

This weekend my self care consisted of spending time with my family. My love ones bring the best out of me. It’s always laughs and smiles when we get together. We went on a bus trip to Pismo Beach Saturday and had a community BBQ Sunday with my dad’s motorcycle club. This weekend was filled with celebrating life and making memories with the people I love the most.





giphyDon’t let anyone tell you that your struggle should look a certain way. No matter what you are going through always take care of yourself. Whatever that means for you. Grieving doesn’t have to be laying in bed crying all day. Health concerns doesn’t always mean visible symptoms, crazy side effects and hella medical prescriptions. Job/Career problems doesn’t always mean losing your job or leaving right away. And housing issues in an apartment building is a long process and won’t be solved over night. Everything can and will eventually be solved over time but most of us do not go around looking like the issues we’re struggling with. Sometimes the situation cause for leaving and sometimes we have to struggle through it. Either way God is teaching us something. The fact that we are able to take care of ourselves, smile and laugh through it all is a blessing. Please do not belittle or trivialize someone else’s situation because they handle it differently than you would. Life is all about working through the hardships because they are bound to happen.

You can still have a hot girl/ hot boy summer no matter what you are going through.

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Thanks for reading & we’ll talk more next week


After graduating with my BA in Communications specializing in Public Relations, I gained experience in fashion merchandising, wardrobe styling, event planning, branding, office administration, and marketing. When I'm not working, I am active in the art and fashion community in the Bay Area and throughout California. Working behind the scenes at events like LA Fashion Week, Sacramento Fashion Week, SFA Student Showcase and accompanying costume designers like Michael Costello has helped build my knowledge and business relationships in the fashion world. I am just a fashionista and creative writer, who loves thrifting. I absolutely love all things Beyonce as well. I grew up a book worm so if I'm not binge watching TV shows or listening to podcasts, most likely I have my nose in a book. I started this blog after college as a first generation graduate learning, growing, and struggling to figure life out. In hopes of aligning others on a similar quest, I blog about my journey through career obstacles, the ends and outs of love, surviving gentrification in the Bay Area, the fashion & art community, mental hygiene in the black community, and pop culture. I also give lifestyle tips on natural wellness, natural hair, being a plant mom, and DIY projects. I write as a form of healing and self care, I pray that sharing my journey will help motivate community healing, therapy and growth for black creatives & entrepreneurs.

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