This week I’ve been preparing and packing for my vacation in Miami and a cruise to the Bahamas! I am soooooo ready!! Lol we leave Friday night and will return next Saturday so there will not be a blog post next week. My mom planned to take my sister and I on this trip a year ago. My mom and my sister are my original road dogs! If you haven’t noticed most of my trips, concerts, and vacations are with those two and it’s been like that forever.
This particular trip my mom calls the pregnancy pact trip. LOL she told my sister and I she wasn’t ready to be a grandma so if we promised not to get pregnant she would take us to the Bahamas all expenses paid. I mean who could pass that up, especially since I’m not married yet and can’t afford a baby no way. Not going to act like I didn’t have any scares though especially now that Aaron and I live together.
But nonetheless she persisted! LOL
This couldn’t come at a more perfect time. Since losing my grandma, it felt like life has been constantly throwing obstacles my way. I haven’t really had time to stop and relax. This is a much needed get away. I need this break to relax with no worries. Adulting has been coming at me fast this past few weeks. My job has been stressing me out, Aaron and I are adjusting to living together and I’ve been working double time just to pay things off. Thank you God for this opportunity to chill on the beach for a week.
Last night while my friend was re-braiding my hair she pointed out “You’ve been somewhere every weekend”. Last Month my family celebrated two graduations. I went to LA two different weekends in May. Ya girl has been on the go.
The weekend of May 9th my cousin Dalvin Butler graduated with his Ed.D degree from USC. Academically, Dalvin has overcome and achieved so much before the age of 30. I am extremely inspired by him and proud to watch his growth. We’re the same age and grew up together so his success not only amazes me it challenges me to do more. We were both raised in East Oakland and grew up witnessing a lot of the same turmoil in our community. As a young black man in America coming from where we come from, I am so very proud of his ambition to work hard for a better future. While working in the criminal justice industry, I witness so many young black and brown individuals in Oakland become products of their environment. Many intercity youth and adults are left with no hope or will to change their situation even when given the support and tools to create a different outcome. It was important for my family to shower my cousin with love and support on his special day, to let him know how proud we are and that his hard work doesn’t go unnoticed.
No lie, it’s hard to believe my cousin I grew up wrestling with is now a Doctor of Education. Just a little background on his story, my uncle and his father was killed when we were only 2 years old. Although he was faced with challenges in his childhood that did not keep him from graduating with three AA degrees the same year he graduated from high school. He was awarded the Bill Gates scholarship and attended Georgetown University where he received his Bachelors degree. After graduating with his Bachelors, he resided in Hawaii to teach high school while attending graduate school. In 2015 my mom, sister and I attended his graduation ceremony where he received a Master’s degree from John Hopkins University. Now here we are 4 years later, witnessing him walk the stage to receive his Doctorate. I know his dad is beyond proud of the man he is today.
Memorial day weekend we went back to LA to celebrate my cousin Brandi who received her Bachelor’s degree from Cal State Long Beach. She is also someone I am so proud of and inspired by. She’s been through her own childhood challenges as well. We are also the same age and although she was raised in Seattle we have always been close. She is so strong and resilient in spite of everything she’s been through and still going through.
Brandi is the youngest and the first of her siblings to graduate college. She started off at a community college and worked hard throughout her college experience. Last summer, she was blessed to be able to study aboard in Thailand for her International business course study. We’ve had a similar experience of working through college, commuting to school, and taking some extra time to graduate. Finishing can be tough when you aren’t living the dorm life, party hard college experience, no scholarships and struggling to pay for college expenses but nonetheless she persisted.
I don’t want to go too far into her life story but Brandi was married young and realized it wasn’t for her and got it annulled. Lol I always mess with her about how she’s technically a divorcee but I’ve always felt that situation really showed her strength. As a 20 year old woman to walk away from a toxic relationship turned marriage and choose herself is truly amazing. There’s women of all ages who still don’t know how to choose themselves. She realized that wasn’t the road she wanted to take and left before things got too deep. Yes, it took her a little longer to obtain her degree but my cousin has one hell of a story to tell and this is just to beginning for her.
My LA road trips were filled with family and graduation arrangements. We were running around to meet up with people and coming together to support our loved ones. This Miami/Bahamas trip is dedicated to relaxing. No running around and constantly on the go. This is dedicated to us resting and enjoying ourselves.
I preach about self care all the time because it helps with my anxiety. Understanding My Anxiety 101 I am grateful I can take breaks while travelling to see the world. This is one of the things I am constantly manifesting in my life. Travelling and connecting with different people would be my dream job. But until that happens I am enjoying and celebrating life with the people I love.
Remember there won’t be a blog post next week but I’ll be sure to take lots of pictures and blog about the trip when I return!
Thanks for reading & I’ll catch y’all later!