Surviving the Bay Area

Happy Wednesday everyone!

*WARNING I’m pissed and need to vent


As you all may know, I just finished dealing with unexpectedly losing my previous job and was scrambling to find a new one. Now that I’ve settled into a new job, I’m dealing with the landlord of the building I live in. *rolls eyes* It’s literally a revolving door of chaos living out here.

Yesterday I went to meet with the Berkeley Rent Board and spoke with a housing counselor. This process has taught me so much about tenant rental rights and how money hungry landlords try to take advantage of us. I cannot wait to own a home of my own, this is my first time renting and I am already so tired.

It’s no secret that right now the San Francisco Bay Area is currently the most expensive place to live in the United States. The amount of gentrification we are experiencing right now is insane. There’s always an argument about new renovations improving the area and building up the integrity of inner city neighborhoods but all that isn’t exactly helpful when the people who call the area home is being forced out.

Currently in the Bay Area, we are fighting to hold on to the small familiar things that makes this place home for us natives. Everyone I love and everything I know comes from Oakland. My family has been in Oakland since the 1970’s. My dad and grandparents have lived in Oakland my whole life so this is where I spent every summer and every holiday after moving out of Oakland to Elk Grove in middle school. I move back to Oakland after I graduated college in 2015. (You can read more about that in my earlier blogs). More than half of my family and friends cannot afford to live in the Bay Area any longer. Some has moved to surrounding cities but still have to commute hours back and forth for work. Not only residents but small businesses are also being pushed out of the area. I have had front row seats witnessing the insane working conditions, the crazy housing market, and the colonizers who move here with little to no respect for the people who have BEEN here.


It is unfair that family and friends who grew up together, raise families together, and built lives together are being forced out of their homes. The craziest part is these colonizers disguise themselves as allies. They pretend to care about social justice issues, community problems, and consider themselves so “woke”. HA HA HA HAAAAAAAAAAA! How fucking funny.


I am tired. I’m tired of working for companies with lack of concern about the livelihood of their employees. I’m tired of having landlords who discriminate, judge, and treat their tenants unfairly based on the color of their skin or just because they are ‘different’. I’m tired of reading about and experiencing instances like ‘Permit Patty’, colonizers and their entitlement. Harassing and threatening the people who’ve been in this area for years before they even decided to move here.

Why move to an area and be rude to the natives? If you aren’t interested in learning the culture and embracing different people from different parts of life DO NOT MOVE HERE! These are the main people who swear they aren’t racist and promote ‘diversity’. NEWSFLASH sticking a “brown” person in a photo doesn’t make you diverse. Hiring someone who is slightly mixed does not make you diverse. Making someone feel uncomfortable because they come from a different background than you, does make you racist. Rejecting someone for employment and housing because they are different than you also makes you racist. Being closed minded and uncomfortable about cohabiting with different people from different walks of life in a place like the Bay Area where it is literally a mecca for all different cultures MAKES NO SENSE! Why are you here? Like serious, why?

I work hard for everything I have so it is an insult and a slap in my face when I am treated different or discriminated against in certain spaces because I look different, wear my hair different, talk different, and grew up differently.

I’m also tired of people charging $1,000+ for a room… A ROOM! Not a studio, not a one bedroom apartment, but a ROOM. No private bathroom, no kitchen, a 200 sq ft. room or smaller. I’m tired of reading housing ads where people have the nerve to charge insane prices for a fucking room and have the audacity to say no overnight guests, no couples, no smoking, no drinking, no partying, no loud music, and any other bazaar ass rules they can come up with. Not that I plan to have wild parties but if I am paying $1,000+ to live somewhere I do not need someone giving me a curfew and rules like they are my parents! Like this cannot be real life.

Career wise I moved back out here because there are a lot of great opportunities in the Bay Area but at this point I find myself constantly trying to figure out if it’s even worth it.

…what am I really doing?


Living in the Bay Area is pure insanity right now. We are literally beating a dead horse and praying we get a different answer. Spending $2000+ for a one bed room really is a joke. Things like settling down, having a wedding, travelling, having kids, and building a family in the Bay Area seems impossible. With the crime rate being so high and the quality of life being the worst in the country, what is the point? Why would anyone want to even build a life here?

Don’t get me wrong there are some amazing and magical qualities about the Bay Area which explains why it is so overpopulated. These days it’s just getting harder and harder for me to remember those great things.

I pray that the Lord guide me in this next season I am entering. I know that this is all just ninja training. (shoutout to Assante on the Friendzone podcast) But I am currently in a whirlwind trying to hold on to my sanity and at times like this everything feels out of control. I turn 27 in two weeks and I’m just feeling like blah. God is definitely growing me, so I’m uncomfortable right now. The position that I’m in is causing me to really step back and reevaluate everything in my life. Which is stressful yet exciting because I know He’s preparing me for greater.

On a brighter note…

I’ll be going on a baecation to Mexico for my birthday this year. I am so very grateful that I’ll have the opportunity to slow down and take a much needed rest break.

Oh yea, I hope you all enjoyed your turkey. After my birthday (yes it is a holiday), Christmas and New Years will be here before we know it. The last few months of the year always fly by. Which I am not complaining about at all. Bring on 2019!

I’m ready for new beginnings.

Thanks for reading & we’ll talk more next week



As a child I wanted to help the world. I wanted to be a neonatal pediatrician. I wanted to travel the world to help women and children during labor and delivery. I watched a tv special on Oprah about women and children in other countries dying at alarming rates during child birth because of lack of resources and I was inspired to somehow save the world one baby at a time. Since then, my vision has slightly changed. My profession isn’t in medicine but I still want to improve women’s health. My focus is still the same, I still have a dream of changing the world. I have now taken a natural holistic approach to tackling women’s health. Beauty and fashion has been a hobby turned obsession of mine. From reading magazines to wardrobe styling to modeling to orchestrating runway shows I dedicated my whole life to the beauty and fashion industry. As time passed, I began to search for the deeper meaning behind the intricate fabrics, fancy shoes, hair and makeup. I have found that health, beauty and fashion are more connected than I thought. My outlet is writing. Through my writing I hope to spark minds and impact individuals to dig deeper.

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