I know you all were expecting a fashion blog but I decided I want to dig a little deeper than my clothes, make-up, shoes and style inspirations. Of course, it’s me so those things will be included but will not be the focus of this blog. I decided I’m ready to peel back more layers.
I want to share about books I read, my natural hair journey, building my personal relationships with God, my family, friends, surviving post college life, starting my career, being a black woman in Corporate America, dating a black chef/artist in Corporate America, entrepreneurship and building a personal brand, finding and decorating our first place together, healing, therapy, family, hopefully becoming a Minimalist one day, the road to financial freedom, finding time to travel, selling my used clothes online and everything else adulting.
In my 25 almost 26 years of living I’ve come to the conclusion that I am a complex individual and I am OK with that. An accurate description of myself cannot be provided by simply checking a box. As women, we wear multiple hats and being a woman of color only adds more to the madness.
“Every woman is multifaceted. Every woman has a switch, whether she’s going to be maternal, whether she’s going to be a man-eater, whether she has to kick ass, whether she has to be one of the boys, whether she has to show the guys that she’s just as smart or smarter, she’s just as talented or creative. Women suppress a lot of their sides.” – Nicki Minaj
I was born a free spirit so why start limiting myself now? Growing into a woman does not mean I have to be one-track minded. Starting a career does not mean I have to neglect my layers to ‘fit in’ with my colleagues. Being in a relationship does not mean I have to act accordingly in order for it to last. Chasing my dreams doesn’t mean changing or compromising who i am and what i believe in to get ahead.
I’ve created this blog to give my readers a glimpse of my complicated life and my multi-layered personality. It took a while because I am my biggest critic. I always second guess myself into procrastination. If everything isn’t perfectly aligned, I become unmotivated. The first step is often the hardest step.
So here I am taking a leap of faith…
There are so many layers that I’ve neglected to ‘fit in’ (whatever that even means). I was the writer who always had her nose in a book in middle school and high school. I was the crazy big sister who played barbies with my little sister until I was 15. After my first break up with my high school sweetheart, I went to college and became the party girl who just wanted to have fun. Now I’m unraveling, healing, and walking into my purpose. I appreciate every version of me. Every layer, every failed relationship/ friendship, every wild night, every argument, every fight, every struggle, every failed class, every bad job all lead me to exactly where I am today. Out of breath but still fighting.
This blog is me growing, discovering, and sharing. It’s not perfect nor will it ever be but it’s mine.
Allow me to introduce you to my female plural:
Black, Woman of Color, Educated, Fashion Addict, Book Worm, Model, Stylist, Lover, Daughter, Sister, Granddaughter, Friend, Cousin, Niece, Opinionated, Fighter, Dreamer, EXTRA, Stubborn, Messy, Chaotic, Shoe Connoisseur, Ghetto, Professional, Trendsetter, Marketer, Researcher, Activist, People Person, Dancer, Athlete, Introverted Extrovert, Loner, Publicist, Poet, Social Lite, Thrifter, Writer, Magazine Hoarder, Hard worker, Hustle-preur, Aspiring Minimalist, Naturalista, Feminist, Bee Hive Member, Sexy, Spiritual, Emotional, Exclusive, Loud, Funny, Businesswoman, Sarcastic, Explicit, BOLD, Confident, Risk Taker, God’s Child.
Whatever the F%*k I want to be.